My boyfriend of 2.5 years says he has no “relationship feelings” for me anymore but still “has caring love for me” and “isn’t in the place for a relationship in life right now.” This has been going on for three months now. I tried NC, he even contacted me two months 
ago to ask if i wanted to meet up then we didnt speak for three weeks then i let temptation give in and i called him four times and texted him that i missed him, and he agreed to meet up with me only to say the same things and also (i go to school across the country but we met in high school and dated before i went off to college), he said “i cant be in a relationship with someone across the country.” He told me he wanted to stay friends and that i could text him whenever i wanted, he always claims to be “so busy” with work which he is but it’s really b/c he doesn’t want to talk to me. He ignored me twice so then i stopped texting for 2+ weeks then reached out again and we texted for over an hour. ” He didn’t ask to hookup as I reminded him that I don’t do that but I agreed on missing the intimacy as well which kinda surprised him. I asked him to text me when he’a free this week and he told me he would. Then I offered to come to his new apartment since I hadn’t seen it and he told me he didn’t want “our emotions to raise being around a bed” so i said “omg that makes sense u seemed like u didn’t want me to cone before” and he assumed i was mad, but i reassured him that i wasn’t and that id just like to see him. So for a week, he was the one reaching out to me to set up a time to meet up. When we met, he was very formal and distant. He asked if i wanted a hug and he made it pretty short. When I said I had some letters for him, he just sighed and said “ok.” I go back to school today. He texted me he was sorry he couldnt meet with me before I went back. Should I do NC again? I really do want him in my life.
I talked about his favorite car and stuff like that and he mentioned he misses the intimacy we had “but just doesnt have relationship feelings anymore
And what if he is not your boyfriend yet, just a guy you’ve been to some dates together. Can we still win his interest back? Even tough you told him to take some time to figure out what he honestly wanted, because you would be fine regardless of whatever he decided to do.
This is ridiculous… if he does all those things then he is a coward and doesn’t want to be with you. Don’t you want better for yourself? Really? This is the problem with the world, we tell women to put up with this type of rubbish which means men think that they can treat us this way. I’ve been in this position and I ended it. Of course it hurts but you will ALWAYS get over it in the end and move on.
He says he still loves me and wants me sexually but he doesn’t want to get my expectations too high, that one day I may want more but he won’t
My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. We started out great, really happy and loving. We would do things together and laugh together. We even planned to move in together and talked about marriage eventually. He’s helped me through a lot of stress and continued stress of moving house and money issues. Up until a week ago when, after he had been acting distant for a few weeks, I asked him what was wrong and he told me he thought he didn’t feel the same as he did in the beginning. He said he doesn’t know when it changed only that it has. He has agreeded to try and work at it and see if he can feel the same way again. Please help me, I’m at a total loss of what to do, or how I should act now. Is it just all the stress I’ve been putting on both of us? He has been depressed lately after finding out his mum has cancer could that be the cause? Or am I just trying to fix something that will never be anything more.
