Allow me to tell about Hey…What’s Wrong With “Hey”? Focusing on how to begin a text discussion with a lady begins with all the 3 major dilemmas you face once you text a lady, “Hey.” 1) It’s Open-Ended She knows you don’t want to just say “Hi,” so she’ll be left wondering what exactly it is that you want when you text a girl “hey,” sure you’re being casual and friendly…but you’re also not really saying anything.