Because we’re wanting to break patterns, you now want to do something about the triggers themselves Here you deliberately pat yourself on the back for having dinner at the table rather than the couch, even though you won’t immediately feel better Here you proactively get the junk food or beer out the house, or when you realize, while driving home, that you are stressed, and you deliberately sit in the car and listen to music that you like while sitting in the driveway, or do a few minutes of deep breathing to relax, rather than automatically marching into the danger-zone of the kitchen.